One of the most common traps I see in Leaders, Entrepreneurs and Visionaries like yourself, is that when you begin to expand,
begin to embody the next level version of yourself
a big fear comes up
it wiggles its way to the surface
it may even keep you from taking action
and this fear is….
the fear of criticism.
the fear of what other people might think and say about you.
the fear that if you truly say what you REALLY think, you’ll be shut down.
If you speak about what you truly feel, no one will listen.
Or that if you do speak up and stand up for what you believe in and ask for what you want,
that people will talk about you,
maybe even say bad things,
or even worse slander you publicly.
This is one of the most common fears I see in Leaders when they’re taking action towards what they prefer,
when they’re up levelling to the next version of themselves,
and when they are wanting to make big moves and changes in their life.
So KNOWING this WILL eventually become an obstacle,
What can you do about it?
You want to level up
you KNOW the next action to take,
yet the fear keeps creepin’ in.
Well…
Here’s the thing.
There will ALWAYS be people challenging you.
There will ALWAYS be some peeps talking about you behind your back…or in front.
There will ALWAYS be people who will disagree with what you say and try to fight you vehemently.
So at the end of the day…are you going to let the outside voices stop what the voice on the inside is trying to say?
I didn’t think so.
So how do we deal?
Here’s what I’ve discovered.
If someone talks Sh*t about me,
and it triggers an emotion in me.
The emotion is in ME.
And I can take full responsibility to feel the emotion.
I can also get present to any beliefs I have that would have contributed to that “mirror reflection”
Because I see my external reality as a mirror reflection of what’s going on for me on the inside.
So in fact, if someone does criticise me, it could be viewed as a gift.
A reflection, for me to examine what I believe about myself.
Then I can shift it. Thank you for that awareness.
Here’s the other side of the coin…
In addition, people who criticize are ALSO projecting on YOU, how they feel about themselves.
So it’s their Sh*t too.
Basically we have a nice little entanglement going on.
So they ALSO have some reflecting to do.
AND, your ability to BE with your emotions,
Essentially comes down with your ability to
1. take a deep breath
2. and feel the sensations on your body
3. and make it mean nothing
THIS….
THIS…
THIS!!!!!
is what I have found super helpful for myself, and my clients.
So don’t let the fear of criticism stop you.
You WILL be criticised in some form or another,
Better the “outside” voices criticize,
Then the inside for not following Soul.
Hope this helps,
XO
