We all know that self-hate is destructive. It can wreak havoc on our relationships with ourselves, our partners, our families, and even our health. It creates symptoms of disease, inner conflict, and can even extend to conflicts with others—even entire nations.
Yet, we rarely realize the subtle ways we practice self-hate every single day.
One of the biggest culprits, yet MOST subtle?
The simple phrase: “I should…”
Believing that you should be doing something different from what your heart truly desires and what you are actually guided to do.
When you allow other people’s opinions and beliefs about who they think you should be, you will cloud your judgment of who you actually are and want to be.
Over time, the more you live by others’ expectations, the more disconnected you become from your true, authentic self.
It’s a slow, subtle form of self-sabotage. Sneaky, because it doesn’t scream at you—but it builds up gradually over time…so slowly that you may not even notice it until it’s too late and you get the proverbial “sucker punch” from the Universe.
This subtle feedback can come up in a variety of ways including…
👉Ignoring your body’s cues to rest when you’re tired.
👉Ignoring your body’s symptoms, thinking they will magically go away
👉Pushing yourself to do what you think you should do to get where you think you need to be.
👉Dismissing your intuition and the nudges that guide you throughout the day.
👉Being too rigid with your schedule & routine, leaving no room for creativity or play.
But here’s the thing: the more you tap into your authentic self, listen to your intuition, and just be—the more you uncover who you truly are. And with that comes more self-love, vitality, energy, and magnetism.
Ironically, that’s when you finally fill the void you’ve been chasing. The very thing you’ve been grasping for, believing it was outside of you, has been within you all along.
Don’t let the voices on the outside, outweigh the vision on the inside.
Cheering you on – you got this…yeahhhh you got this!
Dr. Shelby
