One of the most common challenges I help clients with
is feeling STUCK and continuing to repeat the same patterns over and over again.
This shows up in various forms…
they feel stuck in their relationship,
their marriage,
how they feel when they wake up in the morning,
they feel stuck in the weight they are at,
their fitness level,
they feel stuck in their career,
their finances,
or sometimes they even feel stuck at a certain income level.
and this can be endlessly frustrating
it can be defeating,
repeating the same pattern over and over again
hitting the proverbial ceiling.
I know this, because I’ve experienced it many times myself.
So I totally got them.
And so I’ll share a few simple keys that I find super helpful to get unstuck for both myself and my clients.
1. Observing what you say and what you think
THIS is one of the most powerful analyses you could ever do.
Your thoughts are the ideas that create the actions you take that shape your reality.
When you become present to the beliefs you tell yourself, you then have the power to shift and change what you want into something different
This first key cannot be overlooked or underestimated.
It holds the juice baby!
2. Being present to how your body is talking to you
you ALWAYS have feedback from your body.
And you can trust this feedback.
The challenge is interpreting WHAT your body is trying to tell you.
And this is HUGE for feeling stuck or uncertain of what is your next step.
Say you have a big decision to make.
A simple way to get a clear answer is to ask your body.
It could be as simple as asking a yes or no question
Ex. “Should I ….”
OR, you can visualize each scenario out and see how your body responds.
You will likely notice a difference in how you feel with each option.
A new option may even become clear.
Your body is INCREDIBLY reliable for telling you what is real for you.
3. Being stuck is a choice.
Often, people label themselves as stuck when they are feeling emotions.
Emotions can cloud clarity. Emotions, especially fear can halt action.
The best way to tackle this, is to actually become present, feel the emotions and watch them pass.
And when they do, you can begin to ask your body the questions of what is your next action to take.
You can also skip this step if you are averse to feeling (I know I was for the longest time lol).
Because taking action is ACTUALLY independent of how you feel.
Profound concept right?! lol
For example, to pick up a pen and write hello on a sheet of paper does not depend on you feeling a particular way. You can just do it.
Nike got it right with this.
This is where most people get stuck. They think they need to feel a certain way to take action.
And this is why they are inconsistent in taking the actions they know they need to take to achieve their goals.
Their actions may not also be in alignment with what is truly meaningful to them. However, that is another topic.
So next time you are feeling stuck, follow these steps..
1. Take a breath, ask yourself the question “Am I REALLY stuck?”. The answer is truly, likely no.
2. FEEL any emotion that comes with the thought of feeling stuck. Feel it fully.
3. Then ask yourself “what is the highest priority action I can take in THIS moment”
4. And do it
5. Repeat if necessary.
Let me know how it goes 🙂
